Sometimes I wonder if I am the kind of person that likes being alone. Have you ever wondered that about yourself? I have lots of friends but I really don’t mind being alone at times. In fact, I enjoy it!
Signs You Like Being Alone
- You Value Your Time
- You are Open-Minded
- You are Self-Aware
- You Have a Strong Moral Compass
- You are Level-Headed
- You are Independent
- You are Loyal
- You are Empathetic
- You are Courageous
- You Set Boundaries in Your Life
10 Signs You Like Being Alone
Some people tend to associate the term “loner” with negative connotations, but this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Society seems to try and portray the idea of being alone as something bad but I say it is not.
You may find, upon closer look, that people who are considered to be “loners” have essential traits that make them incredible people.
For simplicity in writing is it ok if I define someone that likes to be alone as a loner? Or an introvert? Yes, I know being introverted is somewhat different from being a loner. But describing how I feel myself they are kind of the same. I am an introvert and I enjoy being alone but I am also not shy when I am in public gatherings or just around people in general.
I enjoy speaking to others and don’t feel uncomfortable doing it but at the same time usually keep things to myself and feel great when I am by myself. Hmmm, ok I must be some of everything! What about you?
I realize that these “words” are not a totally correct definition of anyone but it makes it easier to reference them that way for the rest of the article. Thanks!
Please read on, and you will discover more about ten characteristics or “signs” of people who like to be alone that actually makes these people very cool! Also, some great signs you like being alone quotes along the way for you to enjoy!
Value Their Time
A loner has a greater appreciation for the value of their time. If a loner willingly spends their time with you, then you are considered important enough to “waste” the time they so value.
Loners tend to prioritize the things that they are passionate about, so getting them to take a break from those important things is very impressive.
Research shows that people who like to be alone are more likely to be open-minded. Being open minded simply means that one of your characteristics is you are receptive to many different ideas and sources of information.
This could mean you gather opinions from many people and you are willing to place your thoughts outside of your normal comfort zone. Contrary to popular belief many people who like to be alone are not afraid of arguments.
They don’t run from a confrontation because they are open-minded enough to listen to all sides of an argument. In my personal experience, take care if you want to debate with a person who is a loner!
A lot of people tend to think that loners are antisocial introverts that are too shy to experience new things. No, I have found they are actually very open to others and interact well.
However, people who like to be alone are often very open-minded and love new experiences. They just want to take things a little differently maybe or at their own pace.
Awareness is a strong trait of people who like being alone. Knowing who you really are seems to be something they are more in tune with than the so-called “normal” person.
Because loners tend to spend a lot of time by themselves they have more of an opportunity to do things like introspecting or being deep in thought. Introspicere, a Latin word, meaning to look inside, is a good description of what people who like to be alone tend to do on a regular basis.
What this translates to is a keen ability to learn more about themselves and other people.
Anthony de Mello, was born in Bombay, India in 1931. As a Jesuit priest, he was known as a master of spiritual thinking and a blending of western and eastern philosophy.
He believed that simply being more “self-aware” of yourself can lead to a much happier and fulfilling life. Knowing who you are, your strengths, and your weaknesses are at the core of finding a meaningful life.
Strong Moral Compass
When speaking about someone’s moral compass you are generally talking about someone’s ability to discern between right and wrong.
Many times loners, thanks to their higher level of self-awareness, have developed a solid moral compass that dictates their lives.
Solitary people tend to take their time and think about the consequences of their actions and tend to be better at coming up with the right approach to handle most things compared to people who don’t.
“Their actions” are key in understanding moral compass. Not just knowing right and wrong but also acting accordingly based on those beliefs. Someone’s actions are determined by their ‘moral compass’ of knowing what is the right thing to do.
Having ethical values leads to decisions that are in line with those beliefs. You may have many values but just a handful of them become strong enough that you considered them a moral compass. An example could be…
“Their strong moral compass, integrity, honor, and trustworthiness gives me full confidence they will make ethical decisions based on their strong sense of doing what is right.”
Calm, sensible and assuring are often words people use to describe someone who is level-headed. These are not really characteristics that make someone stand out in a crowd.
It is only when things get hectic that someone who is level-headed will usually end up ‘standing out from the crowd’ in a leadership position. People that like to be alone fall into this category because they generally don’t like to attract too much attention.
This may be why loners tend to remain as calm as possible in most situations. They naturally don’t want to call attention to themselves.
The desire to maintain their tranquility is also what makes them avoid irrational and dramatic people since they find this type of behavior unpleasant to be around.
So being level-headed is a good thing and people like this make great friends…if you don’t like excitement! Just kidding! I am often described as a level-headed person. If someone called you that would you take it as a compliment?
While some people judge and look down on people that spend a lot of time alone as a weakness, this can also a sign that someone is more independent.
Introverts often don’t choose to hang out with people because of any co-dependency. Loners don’t need to have people around; they choose to have people around.
Independent thinking can be sparked from spending time alone and really thinking the matter through to logical conclusions. It seems that an independent thinker takes a more planned approach to things and does not react emotionally.
This is very much a trait of someone who prefers being alone at times. Being alone can detach you from outside influences and/or someone else’s control thus allowing freer thinking. When you are by yourself you have to think for yourself.
Independent thought is a gift and you should be happy if you posses such a trait!
Loyal people can be tough to find these days, but loners and introverts tend to have loyalty in abundance. Maybe because they don’t associate with others as much as a ‘people lover’ type would they tend to spend their time with people they truly like.
Loners have a small close group of friends that they cherish, rather than having a lot of friends to feel popular. How many truly good friends do you have?
You may know a lot of people but how many are the kind of friends you would get up in the middle of the night to go help them with something?
Another way of describing loyalty is by displaying never-ending support for someone. In addition, loyalty can be shown to an organization. An example, “John was totally loyal to the company he worked for and would never leave them for another place to work.”
People that like to be alone are more selective about who they spend their time with, but they are very loyal to those whom they do choose to have as their friends. So lucky you if you have a friend who likes to be alone!
The world can always use a little kind-heartedness, which is why a person that likes to be alone can be an incredibly special person to have in your life. Why? because loners and introverts tend to be very empathetic people.
Empathetic people have a special ability to connect with others on an emotional basis. It is almost as if they have a special bond with some people which allows them to understand and actually absorb the feelings of another person within themselves.
Since they have self-awareness and a keen eye for the feelings of those around them, they are also very in tune with the needs of others. Being able to sense someone else’s feelings can make them a great friend because they can truly relate to you and become a valuable asset.
How many times have you thought that the people in your life don’t understand you or can’t even relate to what you are feeling? If this is happening to you then try to find more empathetic people to surround yourself with. It is a great feeling when you do!
And turning it around…if you are an empathetic person using that gift to help others can make you feel very good about yourself.
A common misconception is that loners are shy so that they must be afraid of everything around them. People who like to be alone are not always shy. That stereotype is not accurate in many cases.
The fact is that they are often more courageous because they are confident in themselves and have a strong independent streak. Don’t take the fact that someone who likes to be alone or is quiet and reserved as an indication they are not a brave and maybe even daring person.
They don’t have outside distractions that interfere with their ability to be bold. People who are courageous are not hindered by danger or the fear of getting hurt.
There is a famous story about the great Sergeant Alvin York, a World War I hero. York grew up in the backwoods country of Tennessee. He loved being in the outdoors and reportedly going off by himself for long periods of time hunting.
He was drafted in the Army and sent off to fight the Germans in World War I where he single-handedly captured 132 German soldiers. He was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions. You can watch a short video about his efforts here.
So, as the story goes Sergeant York was someone that like to be alone yet he was fearless and courageous!
People that like to be alone tend to set personal boundaries that they don’t hesitate to let others know of. They aren’t afraid to set clear boundaries for themselves and others that are part of their lives.
This is probably a way to limit the amount of access others have to them ensuring they get the time alone they want when they want it. Kind of like setting your own personal space. This can be on an emotional level and physical.
Examples of Setting Boundaries
- Discussions of Politics and Religion
- Discussions of Sexuality
- Discussions of Financial Matters
- Emotional discussions
- Social interaction discussions
Loners and introverts usually will stand their ground and ensure that no one takes advantage of them in these areas. Setting these boundaries upfront with others makes things easier for them and sometimes is helpful in avoiding confrontations.
The desire to set boundaries can also stem from a yearning for respect.
A Little bonus for you.
Celebrity Loners & Introverts
- Warren Buffet (Investor)
- Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook Founder)
- Albert Einstein (Genius)
- J.K Rowling (Harry Potter Author)
- Elon Musk (Tesla & SpaceX Founder)
- Clint Eastwood (Actor & Director)
The Bottom Line about Wanting to be Alone
Introverts and loners aren’t as concerned with how other people view them as an average person may be.
There is a famous quote that says, “What you think about me is none of my business!”
Whether you like to be alone or not don’t fret about things. Try your best to capture the Joy of Today!
Thanks for reading and go have some fun.